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Celebrate women on International Women’s Day

Today is supposed to celebrate women around the world… And it’s a tough time to be a woman but hopefully we can make it a better world for our daughters… I have a dream of a world where women don’t have to work twice as hard for equal pay, where paternity leave is as common as maternity leave, and where women are celebrated for the fact that they give life and aren’t told that math and science are too hard to worry their pretty little heads about. A world where people look back in amazement that in 2018 1 in 6 women have survived an attempted or completed rape in their lifetimes… And to honor all that I hope you watch one of my idols and a person who inspires me…

https://youtu.be/ffb_5X59_DA

If you don’t have the time to hear it live maybe the transcript will speak to you

I am a nasty woman.

I’m not as nasty as a man who looks like he bathes in Cheeto dust. A man whose words are a distract to America; Electoral College-sanctioned hate speech contaminating this national anthem.

I am not as nasty as Confederate flags being tattooed across my city. Maybe the South actually is gonna rise again; maybe for some it never really fell. Blacks are still in shackles and graves just for being Black. Slavery has been re-interpreted as the prison system in front of people who see melanin as animal skin.

I am not as nasty as a swastika painted on a pride flag. And I didn’t know devils could be resurrected, but I feel Hitler in these streets—a mustache traded for a toupee; Nazis re-named the cabinet; electro-conversion therapy the new gas chambers, shaming the gay out of America turning rainbows into suicide notes.

I am not as nasty as racism, fraud, conflict of interest, homophobia, sexual assault, transphobia, white supremacy, misogyny, ignorance, white privilege.

I’m not as nasty as using little girls like Pokémon before their bodies have even developed.

I am not as nasty as your own daughter being your favorite sex symbol—like your wet dreams infused with your own genes.

But yah, I am a nasty woman?!

A loud vulgar, proud woman.

I’m not nasty like the combo of Trump and Pence being served up to me in my voting booth.

I’m nasty like the battles my grandmothers fought to get me into that voting booth.

I’m nasty like the fight for wage equality. Scarlett Johansson: Why were the famous actors paid less than half of what the male actors earned last year?

See, even when we do go into higher paying jobs our wages are still cut with blades, sharpened by testosterone. Why is the work of a Black woman and a Hispanic woman worth only 63 and 54 cents of a white man’s privileged daughter?

This is not a feminist myth. This is inequality.

So we are not here to be debunked. We are here to be respected. We are here to be nasty.

I am nasty like the blood stains on my bed sheets. We don’t actually choose if and when to have our periods. Believe me, if we could, some of us would. We don’t like throwing away our favorite pairs of underpants. Tell me, why are tampons and pads still taxed when Viagra and Rogaine are not? Is your erection really more than protecting the sacred messy part of my womanhood? Is the blood stain on my jeans more embarrassing than the thinning of your hair?

I know it is hard to look at your own entitlement and privilege. You may be afraid of the truth. I am unafraid to be honest. It may sound petty bringing up a few extra cents. It adds up to the pile of change I have yet to see in my country.

I can’t see. My eyes are too busy praying to my feet hoping you don’t mistake eye contact for wanting physical contact. Half my life I have been zipping up my smile hoping you don’t think I wanna unzip your jeans.

I am unafraid to be nasty because I am nasty like Susan, Elizabeth, Eleanor, Amelia, Rosa, Gloria, Condoleezza, Sonia, Malala, Michelle, Hillary.

And our pussies ain’t for grabbin’. Therefore, reminding you that are balls are stronger than America’s ever will be. Our pussies are for our pleasure. They are for birthing new generations of filthy, vulgar, nasty, proud, Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Sheikh—you name it—for new generations of nasty women. So if you [are] a nasty woman or love one who is, let me hear you say, “HELL YEAH!”

I am a survivor in many ways. I’m a survivor of rape and the fact that just typing those words made me pause and wonder how my friends will take that admission and feel even the slightest bit of shame, tells me how far we have yet to go…

Please help me make a world where women are celebrated… And one(ok it’s really two) last thing to inspire you… Have you heard Patrick Stewart speak on violence against women? I was a trekkie (always gonna love me some star trek the next generation) but I fell in love with the person behind my favorite captain when I heard his response at comicon take the time to watch these speeches… It is time well spent

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Don’t forget to like me on Facebook too

Www.facebook.com/BestBookLover

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So I am officially a presence on the web

I got contacted by an author and asked to read a copy of her book and review it!!! So that is amazingly exciting and so fare and I’m not far in… I love it. Hiding behind Love reminds me a lot of shiloh walker and Lauren Danes early works… And I’d you don’t know how much I love Shiloh Walker you haven’t been paying attention.!

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a question or maybe a statement of conscience…

i am an avid reader with you all know but i’m also usually a proponent of google play books because it’s easier in some ways to use an e book you always have it with you as long as you have a internet connection. so i have a question for you and you don’t have to answer it to me but answer it to yourself there have been many trips, where depending upon the duration, I had many issues with how I was going to pack clothes…around all the books. And come on be honest fellow bibliophiles, at least to yourself… You’ve had those conversations with yourself too. So, especially these days when we have to pay for luggage by the pound (seanan Mcguire wrote a great short story about a possible future where we even pay for our seats based on our weight) so for that reason alone ebooks are a g-dsend as we can now worry ourselves silly with how we will pack our clothes and all the stuff we buy on vacation as presents for other people or ourselves…

As for packing around our books, that is now reserved for comic conventions, when we are hoping to get the books signed by our favorite authors…

But for the first time in a long time I am finding myself wishing I could go back to, regular books because I’m having o troubleremembering the name of a series and if I had my old book collection I could just look the books until I found it. But now, I have only the vaguest of memories of and thousands of ebooks. So I find myself going through book covers on my eReader and 💭 thinking back with nostalgia on the days when I had an all paper library… Grass is always greener, right? So tell me what you guys think…

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Let the light shine

May the light of the candles this hanukkah illuminate the dark, especially that which dims the light of the beautiful soul within you.  May your souls light burn strong and true bringing peace love hope and joy to you and all those who need a path to get to a place where their soul is equally  bright.  May you find fulfillment in doing Something that you love and is just for you.  May your burdens become lighter and your life better.  May you recognize that every day is a gift and stop putting off until tomorrow things that can be done today.  Acknowledge who and what in your life matters to you and try to keep them in your life.  Get rid Of those people who dim your souls light.  Practice random acts of kindness simply for the joy of helping someone else.  May the Light of the candles. Kindle the. Light of your soul and give you strength purpose direction and hope.  Let the light of the candles also show the reality of your life and situation and in so doing illuminate a path to actions you can take but also lead you to acceptance that the only person you have control over is you. May you receive only g-ds blessings and may the light from the candles bring you a life of prosperity health and joy

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There’s even bigger deals using the coupon code on their front page!

The Coldest products… 

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A Laurell K Hamilton quote upon which I am Hanging my Hat

Welcome to your week! Embrace it, and remember that whatever bad thing is in the past let it be past. Take the lessons from it, but don’t let it make you bitter. We are only victims so long as we let the memory of the pain victimize us. Those of us who have survived abuse, and loss, we are stronger for it. We are the swords reforged in the fires of pain and tragedy. We have already been tested by events that most people will never experience, let alone survive. We’re here. We’re alive. We are living our lives, and that is the greatest victory. It is a triumph over all the bastards that ever raised their hand to us, tore our hearts out, or left through death. We are the strong ones. We are not the broken. We are the reforged, the remade; we have already been stronger than most people will ever understand. Take faith in that, faith in yourself; you can do it, whatever it is, because just being here today is a victory. Go forward, and know that you will pass others today that have their own tragedies, and look at all of us, we’re still here, the past did not destroy us, the past was destroyed, and we move into the now. – Laurell K Hamilton

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Have a safe and Happy Halloween…

I don’t gent any trick or treaters since there is a large development nearby that gives WAY better candy.  But just a reminder  to adult revelers don’t drink  and drive. Watch out for kids and others on the road! And have fun !

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